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"When you travel lightly, you're freer, less burdened, less tired. This applies to life, not just travel."
-Leo Babauta
Once in every two-three months, a familiar voice rings me up
from Down Under. It's a voice that is an epitome of true friendship; a voice
that has been there for me ever since 6th grade. Despite the jubilant
feeling getting a trunk call from someone so close to your heart brings, there’s
an ambivalent feel to it when I have to answer a few inevitable set of questions
that comes up every time.
“When are you coming here? Don’t waste your time there in
Nepal. You’ve got a lot of potential and I know you’ll do great here. There’s
abundance of opportunity over here and you’ll make loads of money. Don’t waste
time. Tell me, when are you coming?”
By the time my friend completes his set of mandatory
questions, I will have already prepared myself mentally to switch to a new
topic. Sometimes I manage to convolute the conversation by asking him about his
life instead, while other times it’s not so easy to dodge the bullets.
I truly appreciate my friend for his concerns regarding my
life, especially my future for his intentions are pure and he envisions a ‘better’ life for me in
Australia.
From the surface, probably it appears that this good old Aussie friend of mine cannot understand why I’m staying back in Nepal, especially doing
something like teaching, writing, and running a podcast, a career path that does not really give
me what most people are after- stability and a lot of money. His chief argument
is that the type of work that I do is better suited for abroad and that I can
attain stability in my life if I’m there.
I have nothing but gratitude for the loving kindness that lies
underneath the stern voice that is growing increasingly frustrated by my ‘lack
of action’. But as for me, I’m taking it slow, and for the better. I’ve had my
share of unpleasant moments and struggles in the past one and half years, but
if a sense of recovery were anything to go by, I’d say I’m doing quite well. In
fact, I’d say I’ve never been happier.
One of my recovery modes into a happier self has been to
slow down. While I see most people around me frantically running around for
that next big thing, I’ve quietly come to an understanding that maybe, for me,
presence is more important at this present moment than a sense of palpable external
achievement; one that is chiefly characterized by productivity. As someone who
was always anxious about the future and rushing for I don’t know what, taking
mindful steps everyday and learning more about myself and taking conscious
actions to understand, envision, and enact a life that’s best suited for me has
given me a sense of deep appreciation of life. Inspired by the legendary
British philosopher Alan Watts, I’ve come to a profound understanding that life
isn’t necessarily a journey that gives a sense of a destination we ought to
arrive at; but rather, life is a music to which we are supposed to sing and
dance along the way.
This appreciation means finding more time to do the things
that really matter to me, rather than pursing ideas just to seek external
validation. I don’t feel the need to pursue certain things just because every
one else thinks is mandatory, or important, or, lets just say ‘cool’. Slowly
but surely, I’m coming to an understanding that everyone’s path is different
and that a keen understanding of the self is essential to make an all important
decision about the type of life one wants to live.
This is not to say that I’ve it all figured out, the truth
is far from it. However, I can take heart from the fact that I’m asking myself
the right questions and the answers are unique; for only my soul can answer
them. The quest of finding the answers is important, and that is why, I’m doing
what’s necessary for me; even if it means cutting out a large part of social
media that has been an integral part of my everyday life.
I’m sure you’ve also encountered similar threats to your
sense of self; you haven’t really known what you want from your life but the
fear of missing out, the fear of falling behind, and the need for approval has
somehow forced you into actions that are inexplicable to you.
I just want to ask you a few questions.
Are you happy with your life or with where you think it’s
leading you?
Who is making most of the decisions in your life- you, those
around you, or your life circumstances?
Are your actions consistent with what truly makes you happy?
If you’re already on a path whereby constantly asking
yourself these questions is the norm, other people’s thoughts, actions, and
paths undertaken will not necessarily derail you into panic mode. You’ll slowly
come to understand that everyone else is equally anxious, confused, afraid, and
beneath it all- just wanting to be loved and appreciated.
Once you come to a deep understanding about this, you’ll
have a lot more courage to take up your own path; at your own pace.
As for me, as I await the next call from my beloved friend,
I know that I’m, slowly but surely, progressing in my own path; even if it
doesn’t necessarily seem obvious on the exterior just yet.
Until then, a tad bit of awkwardness in the conversation
lives on.
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Read my other writings on my new website www.themindfulnepali.com and stay updated about newer posts!